“A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success.” – Bo Bennett

When I wrote this post a couple years ago, I was dealing with a rejection that really didn’t make sense to me. And now, here I am, two years later, dealing with a very similar rejection and still just as confused as I was then. These things don’t stop happening, but we do start reacting to the differently. My response is to rally, regroup, and figure out what I need to do to make sure the next time is the one that works. It doesn’t get any easier, really. But it does make us stronger.



As authors, we have to have a thick skin. That first rejection letter hits us hard. We want to cry (and that’s fine). We want to call up that agent or publisher and tell them why they’re wrong and make them see that they really do want our manuscript (that’s not fine).


After a while, we come to expect the rejections. We read stories about how bestselling authors were rejected so many times and we think, “This is just part of the process. It’s part of my success story. I’ll sit back and laugh about this when I’m rolling in my millions.” We get used to it. It’s expected. It’s no big deal.


Then we make it. We get that acceptance we are so looking for and prove everyone who initially rejected us wrong! We’ve done it! We’re so proud and grateful. Until we’re rejected again and we suddenly wonder if it was a fluke that we were accepted in the first place.


I recently received a rejection, not on a manuscript, but on a business proposal. I really thought I had it all together, but when the questions started, I froze. It was so embarrassing. After I logged off the Skype session, I cried for a good five minutes because I knew I could do better than that. After my little pity party, I sat down at my computer and started working on a new plan. A better plan. One that would prove, to myself and everyone else, that I do know what I’m doing.


Sometimes, what we think we want just isn’t a good fit for us, and that’s okay. That agent we thought was our dream agent may not be the one who can land the six-figure deal (yes, this is rare, but it happens). The key is to keep moving forward. Don’t give up because one person (or a couple hundred people) didn’t see your vision. It’s your vision. Make it happen.

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